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By Deanna M.
Sep 2, 2007 - 11:44:42 AM
Ask Deanna!
Real People, Real Advice
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Dear Deanna!
I’ve started a new job and my boyfriend won’t stop calling me all the time. I’ve explained to him that my new boss is strict and all the calls are monitored. I need this job and am not willing to lose it over him. I’ve been written up twice, we are now arguing at home, and he calls me more at work and it’s becoming stressful. I thought this was the man for me, but now that I see he will jeopardize my job and livelihood, I’m not sure. Is there any thing I can do in this situation
Angel
Boston , MA
Dear Angel:
If we do some math I would certainly say that only one person in this relationship has a job and that’s you. There’s no other reason your boyfriend can call you all day at work unless he doesn’t have a job or a life. He’s making a strong statement of disrespect because any man that will put your job at risk is a man that only cares about himself. You have a choice in this matter. Lose the man or the job and unless you want to go hungry, the decision is easy.
Dear Deanna!
My ex-girlfriend seems to wear a sign on her forehead that says all of her ex-boyfriends need to be in her face. I was cool with this at first because I’m a secure man. Now she’s taking things too far and wants to socialize with these men behind my back. Things were fine until she started keeping secrets from me. I’m convinced that if things were on the up-and-up she wouldn’t have secrets but she won’t see it my way nor stop this behavior. Am I right or wrong?
Justin On-Line Reader
Dear Justin:
You were foolish to begin this relationship with the ex-lovers in the picture. Your girlfriend isn’t taking your relationship serious and she’s going to do what she wants and with whomever. Regardless of what you say, she’s going to do her thing, so you should stop trying. If she’s keeping secrets about other men, she’ll lie and have secrets about everything else. You should save yourself the stress and call it quits and keep it moving.
Dear Deanna!
A few months ago, I loaned a friend some money. It wasn’t a lot and I was prepared to count it as a loss if I wasn’t repaid. The problem began when she borrowed more money and promised to pay it back by a certain date. I loaned her money a third time and she signed a promissory note. Now the money is significant and she’s moved, stopped taking my calls and has a new car. Do I have any options to recover my money or do I just move on?
Katina
Dallas
, TX
Dear Katina:
You should bang your head against the wall a few times for being so stupid. You helped put wings on your money when you gave her more loans. If this is your friend you could see she was broke to begin with and more so when she started asking you for money. You played yourself on this one and your friend knew she could get away with it. Depending upon the amount, you may be able to go to small claims court with the signed document, but don’t hold your breath.
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