Dear Deanna!
   I’ve spent quite a bit of money on dates and dining trying to get a relationship but I get nothing in return.  I try to hold on to chivalry and follow the rules on dates.  I’m a perfect gentleman at the movies, at dinner and I pay for everything.  I’m tired and now feel that women need to get with the program and spend as well.  I’m tired of watching other men do the same.  How do I let a woman know I want to date her but I’m not willing to part with my money too soon?      
  Roger Davis               Atlanta, GA

Dear Roger:   
   If you’re complaining then it’s obvious you’re trying to be impressive by spending money you don’t have.  If “getting something” drives your motivation for dinner and dating, then you got what you deserved.  Nothing.  You should lead by example.  Before your next date, have a money discussion and determine who’s paying or if you’ll go.  It’s none of your business how other men spend their money and you shouldn’t hate the player or the game.
 
Dear Deanna!
   My 20-year-old daughter had been living with her dad and his wife.  He informed her that she would have to move out at the end of year so she didn’t pay her car payment for two months.  She has a job but her car got repossessed and although I’m in a bad place myself with two minor daughters, I tried to support her.  My daughter is now angry with me, which is making me feel guilty.  Am I wrong to feel guilty about my daughter’s situation? 
Anonymous                  Los Angeles, CA

Dear Anonymous:  
   Your husband had the right idea of making your daughter responsible.  At age 20, there’s no excuse for not paying her own bills so losing the car is her fault.  As a mother you feel her pain but as an adult you have to allow her to mature, make mistakes and grow up.  Realize that your daughter is an adult while you focus on the small kids.  On another note, your daughter should be in college so she can become independent and eventually not rely on anyone for financial support. 

Dear Deanna: 
   I’m a young man and I’m saved.  I love the Lord with all my heart but now I realize that the temptation of the flesh is making me weak.  I was sexually active before my walk of faith and now I feel as if I’m going to slip into fornication again.  How do I stay strong with this and not give in to this sinful pleasure? 
Douglas                                    Omaha, NE

Dear Douglas:   
   The act of celibacy requires prayer and divine intervention from above. This is a worldly sin that can’t be conquered alone by man.  Pray for steadfast guidance and determination to abstain from sex as you strive in faith to guard your temple until you have a wife.  There will certainly be some rough days and long nights, but that’s always better than sacrificing your salvation for lust of the flesh.