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Friends Got Caught Stealing.....
By Deanna M.
Jul 29, 2007 - 1:10:25 PM

Dear Deanna!
   My family is giving me problems over money.  I inherited several thousand dollars and now everyone has a sob story, cars breaking down and household issues.  Most of these people have never visited me at my home nor thought of me during the holidays.  I have had arguments with my parents, my cousins and everyone and I can’t take it no more.  I want to put my foot down and say no to everybody that’s begging but I’m afraid of isolating myself.  What do I do?
   Miserable with Money                       Omaha, NE

Dear Miserable:
   It’s amazing how friends and family members can smell money but don’t know you when you’re broke.  You need to take care of your family first, make a donation to your church and invest what’s left.  If you have a giving spirit after taking care of your priorities, then be loving and give a few of your close family members a savings bond with love and keep it moving.

Dear Deanna!
   I am tired of the hustle and flow of relationships.  The dating game is so played out and overrated that I have exhausted my hopes of finding a husband.  I cook and clean and do all the domestic things and work full-time.  It seems that men aren’t attracted to me.  What am I possibly doing wrong and why can’t men see that I’m a total package?

Clarice                                                            Chicago, IL
 
Dear Clarice:
   You need to get off of the “me, me, me” trip and start focusing on what you can bring to a relationship and form a loving partnership.  Your boast of cooking and cleaning isn’t impressive because there are many services out there that will come and do these things.  You need to demonstrate relationship qualities such as trust, integrity, and loyalty and be willing to be part of a team.  Men aren’t seeing you as a total package and they’ll continue to look at you like a ribbon on a box if you don’t change your thinking.

Dear Deanna!
   I was at the mall with my friends and they got caught stealing.  Lucky for me, I had to go to the car to get some change when everything was happening in the store.  They were caught on camera and were arrested.  When the cops got there, they tried to pull me into it but the cops didn’t agree with them because I was outside.  My friends are now trying to get me to lie and they’ve turned against me.  Have I made the right decision by staying away from them?

Anonymous                            
On-line Reader

Dear Anonymous:
   Birds of a feather stick together and it’s to your advantage that you’re not viewed as a thief or a liar.  If these are your friends, then you need to think about doing better.  You should not lose any sleep but be thankful your guardian angel was watching out for you and you avoided this drama.  If these are true friends they’ll be mature enough to realize they have to pay for their actions, if not, you don’t need them and should keep rolling.

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