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Dear Deanna!

My relationship feels dead.  In the beginning, things were exciting but now everything is boring.  I’m not motivated to do my hair anymore, I don’t feel like dressing up and sex is the last thing on my mind.  Now that I look my worse, my boyfriend has become active, he goes out all the time and has really come out of his shell.  He doesn’t pay me any attention and when he does, he seems to be somewhere else.  Are these signs that we need to end this relationship?

Hurting and Confused                                             Benton Harbor, MI

Dear Hurting:

You’re living the classic case that involves women let themselves go and then lose their man.  You need to wake up and realize you look a mess and your boyfriend has chosen to keep living.  He hasn’t changed other than the fact he may have another woman because he’s almost sick of you.  If you want this relationship, get your act together fast because he’s on his way out.  The clock is ticking, but you can turn things around with effort, and positive thinking.

Dear Deanna!

My son is dating a woman my age.  The problem is the fact he’s a senior in high school and she is divorced with two small children.  I understand my son is at the age where he may be experimenting sexually but he’s a baby compared to her and I don’t like it.  I’m cordial to his girlfriend but I’m at my wits end.  She is starting to brainwash him and I hit the roof when I heard him bragging about his anatomy.  What can I do without doing something that will land me in jail?

Tammy                                                 Dallas, TX

Dear Tammy:

Your son has fallen victim to a played out garden tool that doesn’t have many options left.  You could kick her door off the hinges, drag your son out and give her a beat down.  But since you have to be civil, you can stop this by pressing charges and filing a restraining order to keep her from your son.  In the meanwhile, focus on your son and help him understand what’s going on.  You also need to buckle down and help him clearly see his future that includes college and a career and not this woman with her built in baggage.

Dear Deanna!

For the first time in my life, I am happy with a man I feel is my soul mate.  He is everything I imagined and I can even live with his flaws and shortcomings.  I love him dearly but he is overly critical and is very hard on me.  When I make mistakes he treats me like a child.  He talks about my hair, my make-up and the way I eat.  He is a great guy and I know he means well.  How do I let him know how this makes me feel without jeopardizing the relationship?

Maria                                                   Charleston, SC

Dear Maria:

You’re a star struck groupie in this relationship.  As soon as he gets tired, he’ll drop you like a hot coal and move on to another woman.  If he sincerely cared there wouldn’t be any feelings of disrespect, ridicule or one-sided criticism.  You need to take the risk and tell him how you feel and that you won’t tolerate his treatment.  If he’s willing to heed your advice that’s a good thing.  If he turns out to be a pig then realize he doesn’t give a damn and keep it moving.

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