Dear Deanna!
   I’m in love with a married man and I know he’s going to leave his wife for me. He and his wife argue all the time, she nags him and they don’t go anywhere together. She tried to trap him by getting pregnant but he still plans to leave her. She doesn’t know about me yet, but I plan to make my presence known. Will this help speed up the process and make him leave faster or should I let it play itself out?  
  Committed Mistress.              Atlanta, GA

Dear Committed: 
   You’re a fool and dumber than a door nail. A small percentage of men leave their wives and a smaller percentage stay with the mistress if they do.  First you should look at the fact this man had a baby with his wife while using you like toilet paper. Secondly, you should realize if he cheats on his wife, he’ll cheat on you too. Do yourself a favor and find a single man that will respect you and not have you in a deadly situation playing fake love games.

Dear Deanna!
   I met a guy that I thought was really interested in me. I helped him get employment at my company, helped with his bills and paid child support for him. As soon as things started looking up for him, our relationship changed.  Things hit the fan when he got a promotion and moved into another department. He is now telling me that he’s focused on improving his life instead of dating me. I heard that he’s dating someone else in the company. What do I do?
Crying and Miserable                        On-Line Reader

Dear Miserable:
   You set yourself up by confusing help with being used and also giving up your money. You never should mix business with pleasure because it’s a guaranteed recipe for pain. He used you to get ahead and you can see early on that he’s leaving you behind. If you heard that he’s dating someone on the job, it’s probably true. You can’t do anything other than move on, be glad that you got out early and pray for the new lady who will be his next sucker.

Dear Deanna!
   I’m a recently divorced grandmother enjoying the single life. My husband of 30-years left me for a younger woman. I don’t regret the situation and knew that he cheated during most of our marriage. I’m dating and things are great. My adult sons don’t mind my new lifestyle, but my daughters are giving me problems. They want me to live as an old grandmother. I look good for my age and want to know how to I convince my daughters to let me live my life.
Sexy Grandma                                               Online-Reader

Dear Grandma:  
   You’re grown enough to pay your own bills, mind your personal affairs, and live without your daughters henpecking you to death. You need to set them straight and tell them to mind their business. Yes, they’re concerned because you’re their mom, with a motherly image but you need a life.  Assure them that you’re making good decisions, feeling good about yourself and you prefer to live than sit down, grow old and bore yourself to death.