UNITED STATES—We’ve all heard the phrase “Misery loves company,” but do miserable people really make it a goal of theirs to make those surrounding them feel as bad as they do?  I’m starting to believe so.  I know quite a few people who seem to enjoy being in a negative state of mind.  No matter what you say, no matter what you do, they seem to relish living in a state of negativity.

It’s quite sad to say the least.  I’m referring to baby boomers primarily.  A lot of them are at that age where they have mid-life issues.  They hate their job, they have no money, they’re not where they’d like to be in life, they’re overweight, they’re lonely, and the list goes on and on.  My question is what end goal do you receive by making all the other people surrounding attempt to feel as bad as you do?  There is no goal to accomplish.  You simply are walloping in your sorrows.

The law of attraction states that what you think about you tend to attract.  If you think you’re going to have a bad day at work, you will have a bad day at work. If you think you’ll get a bill in the mail, guess what you’re going to get a bill in the mail.  Do you get my point?  When I question people why they have such a negative way of thinking, they have no way of responding.  “I’ve always been a negative person.”  Really?!  That makes no sense, are you telling me you haven’t had anything happy happen in your lifetime.

How about you try some positive thoughts?  Thinking positive can really pull you from that bad funk that you’re experiencing.  Think about something that makes you happy.  A favorite pastime or hobby that gives you jubilation; I tell people time and time again just taking a moment to reflect on something positive can change your entire outlook on life and yourself. I’m a blunt person; I hate being around negative people.

It’s toxic and simply places the other party in a worse mood than the person who seems to enjoy misery.  If you want to wallop in your sorrows, do it elsewhere, not around me.  I’m having a good day; I don’t want to be brought down by someone who has no desire to place a smile on their face.  I refer to these people as a negativeNancy; it makes them feel good to spread there misery to the masses which is quite sad to say the least. The human mind is a powerful thing.  I tell people time and time again the worst thing you can do is to have idle time.  Why is that?  When you have loads of idle time you begin to over-think and over-analyze situations.
Occupy your time so your focus doesn’t involve all of the bad things that are happening in your life.  You’re still going to have those bills, you still have to go to work, and you still have to do this and that.  Those worries that you have will still be there.  Don’t get so engulfed in the bad that you’re unable to focus on the good.  A lot of the times the bad things happening to you are nothing compared to what others may experience.  The sad thing is a lot of us fail to realize the good things that we already have going for us.

By Trevor Roberts